Red flags in dating men
If you have someone with any of the above, raise the issue with them, or if it’s serious enough, bail out and don’t look back.Most of us will have at least one, if not a few, significant relationships during our lifetime.It’s essential to get to know in every possible way before you move into a committed relationship.Often, individuals go in search of a relationship without this essential knowledge.It won’t let up and the longer you’re with them, the more entrenched they become in your life, is the worse they’ll get, often using criticism as a chief way of getting at you. They of course can be overcome, but failure to acknowledge these issues in the first place and openly deal with them will cause big problems.
Pay attention to people who don’t know what to do with themselves if they don’t get their ‘medicine’. Also unhealthy attitudes in the bedroom do spill over into other areas of your life and will leave you feeling very insecure.
But how can you ever hope to know another individual if you don’t know yourself first?
How can you address another’s needs and desires if you're disconnected from your own?
A really good exercise I ask my clients to do is to write down every partner they’ve had a significant relationship with, and then, for each, answer questions such as: What attracted you to this person initially? Was your fantasy about this person—what you imagined or assumed to be true—validated in reality? Did revelations during the course of the relationship change your mind? Do any patterns, similarities from relationship to other relationships, emerge?
Learn to ask the hard questions out of the gate, the first or second time you meet someone, before opinions are solidly formed.