Female dating anxiety
You worry that you need to sweep a woman off her feet, and that you aren’t aggressive enough.Again, you are judging yourself from the woman’s perspective rather than your own, and finding yourself failing before you begin. Some women will look at you as a loser if they learn that you are inexperienced.I am a single, 26 y/o, white, middle-class, very smart, attractive guy.Most of my life is filled with success, except for one HUGE gap.You can’t assert yourself when you are worried about keeping other people from rejecting you!
And if I have stated it correctly there, I think that is part of the problem because that is exactly backwards from how it should be.
I don't know if it's a little late to be posting a comment (given that some of these are older) but i'd like to add my 2 cents.
For the last 4 years I let my self esteem sink down lower and lower because of the fact that i'm still a virgin.
I think that I have three problems: #1 – I cannot build up enough energy to go out and meet women. I am not shy in normal social situations, but just going up to a woman and talking to her is not a skill of mine. I am much more comfortable not expressing intimacy to anyone. I would consider myself over 10 years “behind the curve” and I really feel like a loser. I tend to be a “glass is half empty” type of person.
If I go out with someone my own age, I am going to be light-years behind in experience. When you say that you are a nice guy, I wonder if what you mean is that you are a passive guy. I note that you’ve been on dates but have bailed out of the process after the second date, perhaps because you “fear intimacy” as it were (the second date being the beginning of the period when the formation of a relationship becomes a possibility).