Dating other races
Selena Gomez is not America Ferrera is not Sofia Vergara is not Penelope Cruz is not Shakira is not Rosario Dawson.Do we ever hear “I’m just not attracted to white people? White people look hella different from each other, and so does everyone else.
If I had a quarter for every time I heard “I’m not racist, I’m just not attracted to _______ people,” I’d start chucking quarters at people who say that. Viola Davis is not Beyonce is not Michelle Obama is not Halle Berry is not Oprah.
It is absurd to draw a hard and fast line across a swath of people that contains such a multitude of human faces and figures.
If the only thing they share is that they check the same box on a census and that’s why you’re not interested, well, that’s racist.
***** These days, people don’t just come out and say, “I won’t date black people because they’re black.” (That’s not true, obviously, plenty of people are still explicitly racist, but this is not an essay for them.) Instead, like nightclubs that ban low-hanging jeans and do-rags, people express their preferences in coded language and rules, “I want to date someone who gets me,” “We don’t have anything in common,” “I’m just not as attracted to them.” It is not unusual or improper to seek out people with shared experiences.
“I won’t date _________ people” means that you think _______ people have something universally in common that you don’t like, and since the only thing they have in common is a socially constructed and arbitrarily enforced categorization as ________, the thing you’re uncomfortable with is their race, and that is racist.