Dating a big guy
So from his perspective, this is a perfect situation: He still gets to be technically single but also has your ongoing exclusive commitment, sex, and companionship. So if he starts feeling pressure from you for him to get into a relationship with him, he’s going to pull back… It’s because he doesn’t want to be in a relationship…Or if he feels that the current dynamic is feeling too much like a “relationship” to him (whatever he defines that as), he’s going to pull back. and no amount of asking, begging, hinting, pressuring or convincing is going to change that!MORE: 5 Steps to Stop a Man From Withdrawing Men and women both do this, but sometimes it’s harder to see when we’re thinking about the person we’re with.I’m not saying they’re genuinely interested in you too.What I am saying is that in the beginning phase of the relationship, it’s common for one or both people to have some amount of insecurity and want to go out of their way to make sure the other person really likes them before they let their guard down.So one of the ways they might see if you like them is to do and say anything they can think of that they think you would like. You would want the other person you’re with to feel secure with you, so that they can let their guard down and be their true day-to-day self (without all the added performances to make you like them).MORE: The Top 3 Reasons Why Men Pull Away If you say something like, “Really? ” and get all excited, then he knows you’re really into him.
especially if he feels some amount of insecurity about how much she’s into him.MORE: Signs He Doesn’t Want to Be With You He might give you some excuse as to why he can’t get into a relationship, but the excuse isn’t the part that matters.As I’ve said time and time again: When a man says he doesn’t want a relationship with you (for any reason), believe him! It makes me sad to see, but there are a lot of relationships I see where the guy is insecure and wants to make sure the woman likes him.At first, I thought he was just trying to end things, but then from time to time, he’ll text me something really sweet, like about how much he wants to see me, or that he’s been thinking about me, so obviously, he’s still interested or why would he do that?Okay, I’m gonna let you in on something that very few women know.The excitement is on thinking about all the things they like about you.The fear is rooted in insecurities: What if they don’t like me as much as I like them?For instance, if a guy says something like “I like you so much” or whatever during the early phases, he very well might mean it, but he also wants to see how you’ll react.Specifically, he’s checking to see if you’ll say that you feel the same way. He would text me things like, ‘I miss you’ and ‘Can’t wait to see you’ and on our second date he said he ‘never liked a girl so much after only two dates’. All this was great, but then he started to shift and lately has been acting really shady- he cancels on me last minute, he’s been acting distant, and I’m just getting weird vibes. We hit it off right away and during the first few weeks, he seemed super into me.